Why God – Part III


How do you behave in trials and tribulations? Do you remain in God or do you turn against Him. Do you boldly declare that He is still God or do you settle for worries and fears? God wants to know you. God wants to know where your heart is. Can He trust you with his blessings? Can He trust you with that imperfect husband and those cruel in-laws? Can He trust you with those sour colleagues and jealous neighbours? Can He trust you to introduce his perfect love to those imperfect people? Will you stand with God as He tries to display his love to those cruel people? Will you stand with Him by your reactions as you forgive and love those people?

Or will you turn and walk out of that marriage and use your own strength to avenge those people? Trials are the only way that will help God see which side you are on. So, dear reader, which side do you take when hell breaks loose on you?

Jesus chose the side of humility, obedience and forgiveness. Then He got his crown and became the Lord of lords and the King of kings. David chose faith as he killed Goliath and became the king of Israel. Paul and Silas fought back in worship and saved a family in Acts 16. Job chose to say ‘I know that my redeemer lives’, in Job 19:25.

God will never allow anything to happen that can overpower you. He trusts you with all that you are going through. He trusts that you will defeat the devil by staying obedient to his Word which says:

  • ‘Love and pray for your enemies’ (Matt 5:44)
  • ‘Forgive seventy-seven times’ (Matt 18:22)
  • ‘Rejoice in affliction’ (Jas 1:2)

So between God and Satan, the only thing that makes either of them win you over is your reaction. It does not matter what was done to you, but it is what you did about it that matters. No matter how painful the event was, to please God you need to be obedient. You cannot say: ‘I have every right to be angry; to hold a grudge or to avenge’. Not when you are a child of God. The only right you have is to love and forgive. Your reaction matters and determines whether Satan wins or God does.

Matters like forgiveness and humility are not weaknesses but strengths in the eyes of God. I think it is better to be rated wise by God and foolish by the world.

This experience exercise does not mean God does not care about us. In fact it proves just how much He loves us. And it is not a lifetime event but a season. When it passes it leaves in its place a different person who has changed for the better — a person who has moved from being short-tempered, rude, selfish and jealous; to being loving, caring and merciful. So endure the situations around you in obedience and God will reward you.

Declaration: Lord you promised that you will never allow me to suffer more than I can bear. I have therefore decided to trust you in my season of pain.

This post marks the end of the Why God mini series that has been adapted from my book: Healing Hurting Women through Christ. I hope you enjoyed it.

Till next time…


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Why God – Part II


After that whole generation had been gathered to their fathers, another generation grew up, who knew neither the LORD nor what he had done for Israel

Judges 2:10


In the above verse God had a problem with the Israelites who did not know Him after the generation of Moses passed on. This new generation did not know God’s wonders, miracles and the judgements He revealed to the old generation. Because He is only served by experience (as we learned from the previous post), He needed to train this generation as well so that it gain experience with Him.


‘These are the nations the LORD left to test all those Israelites who had not experienced any of the wars in Canaan (he did this only to teach warfare to the descendants of the Israelites who had not had previous battle experience): the five rulers of the Philistines, all the Canaanites, the Sidonians, and the Hivites living in the Lebanon mountains from Mount Baal Hermon to Lebo Hamath. They were left to test the Israelites to see whether they would obey the LORD’s commands, which he had given their forefathers through Moses.’

Judges 3:1-4


So God decided to leave some nations for this new generation to fight so they could gain battle experience. Notice that God would have wiped away all the nations so that His precious Israel who not face any problems, however He deliberately left the problems for Israel to deal with them. It was not going to be all milk and honey for this new generation. It was going to be a hard, painful and annoying experience. But it was necessary for their own good and for their growth in God. It was going to bring them to know God in their own lives and to be chastened into good behaviour.

The last verse above states that God wanted to see if they would obey His commands. You see it is very easy to live by the book when everything is going well. It is very easy to obey God when we are in our comfort zone. The challenge is when reality says left and God says right. When we are hard pressed is whereby God can get the correct answer. God wanted to trust the new Israel but only trials were going to help Him to do so.

God also want to trust you as His child but it can not be done through words only. There must be pain and suffering involved that will qualify you to be trusted by God. What is it that you are currently facing? It must train you to have faith in God, therefore, do not allow it to drive you away from God. In your distress seek God, as much as you are hurt and angry. Find God in the midst of your storms. Jonah found God within the belly of a fish under the might seas.

My challenge this morning is that: let us find God in our circumstances. Let us pass the Test and win those battles. The good part is that as you face your nations that are your portion for training, God is there with you. If you invite Him in the battle you will surely win.  Halleluai!!!

Why God – Part I

Even if we can avoid uttering the “Why God?” question aloud, it always lingers and floats above any crisis we are facing. In an attempt to answer part of this question as I think God Himself would answer it in any given situation, I will give you three reasons as to why God might have allowed some pain to sneak into your house.

Firstly: I want you to know and understand that as a child of God there are certain lessons that God needs to teach you in your Christian walk. And these lessons are only learned through pain, so that you will gain experience with God. One of the reasons you might be going through that fire might be that …



God is served by experience and that is a fact. Everyone who declares that he knows God actually means he has seen Him in his own life. If you say God is a provider you mean you have seen Him provide for you. Even as I wrote my book (Healing Hurting Women through Christ) I declared that God is a healer because He has healed me. Hagar in Genesis 16:13 called Him ‘God who sees’ (Jehovah El Roi), because He saw her misery and rescued her. And Hannah in 1 Samuel 1 knew that God answers prayers because He answered her.

What am I saying? I am saying that God allows circumstances in our lives to train us so we can graduate and be qualified. Qualified to help others out of the misery we went through and survived. Qualified to write books which heal hurting other women. Qualified to preach the love of God to the nations, to feed the hungry and to heal the sick.

God wants to use us but He also wants to qualify us first, because He qualifies the called and causes them to have a story to tell. Every recruiting company only considers experienced candidates. It is the same with God. He needs only qualified individuals. If you want to be used by God you should enjoy and endure the hour of trial as you are being prepared for the journey. As Dr Millicent Hunter puts it in her book titled, Do not Die in the Winter: “you cannot take God’s people to a place you do not know”. Through my book, I take you to healing because I know that place. All the great women of God suffered in one way or the other to be where they are today. That suffering was part of their ministry.

But you might ask why, if God loves you, how can He allow you to experience such pain? Before I answer you, let me ask a question as well. Why did your parents not allow you to behave as you pleased? They claimed to love you but they never allowed you to live your own life and to do cool stuff. God loves His children but He will not allow them to be spoilt brats. He trains them to be obedient children.

Although we are children of God, we would sometimes love to avenge our enemies. to retaliate with angry shouts and to hold grudges. But Jesus our Lord does not allow us to do that, and we aim to obey Him. He teaches us to forgive and to love our enemies. He disciples us in order to be better people. He does not take sides but He stands with His training manual — the Word. Although Hagar was seen by God she was commanded to return to Sarah and to be submissive to her. Now that was character building.

Let me also warn you that this training might take longer if you are uncooperative. For example if you grumble or hold grudges during your hard times, God will expand the season of pain because you clearly still have a lot to learn. Do yourself a favour and endure in patience so that you can get over it sooner.

Serving God Requires Experience...and that is a fact.

Please look out for PART II and PART III of this topic.

Till next time…

When God Says Be Still

When the LORD says BE STILL,

What? Did I hear correctly? I need only to be still?

The other day my emotions were kind of worked up, actually feeling very bad because of a trial I was facing. As I went to church that Sunday I expected God to say and do something about my situation. I expected Him to say, my child, stand up and say this, go there and do that. You know when stuff goes so bad that you actually wish He can just descend down in your living room. But NO, God whispered words that I did not want to hear let alone obey. He just said, Be STILL. LOOORD… I wanted to scream, have you seen what is happening right now in my life? Can you see what I am going through? Surely, as God you must know that, there must be something tangible that needs to be done here. You cannot just say I must be still. There are mountains that need to be moved here and people that must be punished…God can you hear me?

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